Love. It’s the strongest force on earth. It can drown out fear and doubt, cross every barrier imaginable and ultimately triumph over evil. In every fairy tale EVER that’s exactly what happens:
Regular girl + Love + Prince + Villain – Love + Battles/Pleading + (occasional) Fairy Godmother – Villain + Love + Prince and (now) Princess = HAPPILY EVER AFTER
As a little girl, I chose to believe in fairy tales; I found hope in the future through them. As I began to grow up, I realized that real life wasn’t quite as simple. Break-ups happen. Divorce happens. Jealousy happens (especially if you’re wired like “Othello”). Death happens. Life happens. Grace happens. Redemption happens. Trust is built, faith is established, and sometimes love (whether it be Philia or Eros) blossoms. When I began contemplating it, I concluded the journey to finding “true love” was very similar to the road people walk as Christians. He pursues us and He wants to be pursued; there’s commitment and extensions of grace and mercy. John 3:16, perhaps the best known Bible verse, says: “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” This Agape love is powerful, passionate, exciting, pure, and fulfilling.
As Christians, we are called to show a Philia love to our neighbor; loving them no matter the circumstance, serving them, encouraging them, and most importantly, extending light. We may not like how they act, or what they say; however, loving (through the Lord) does not require liking. Corrie ten Boom puts it best: “Do you know what hurts so very much? It’s love. Love is the strongest force in the world, and when it is blocked that means pain. There are two things we can do when this happens. We can kill that love so that it stops hurting. But then of course part of us dies, too. Or we can ask God to open up another route for that love to travel.” Though Corrie ten Boom went through unspeakable things during World War II, she forgave through the Lord; furthermore, she loved through Him.
My hope for a someday Eros love, like the Song of Solomon so beautifully paints, doesn’t stem from a fairy tale as it did those 11 years ago. Rather today, it comes from the verse that gives the best definition of love: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 gives me peace in His plan for my future and His perfect Agape love. His love (and plans) never, ever fail.
Happy Valentine’s Day and xoxo!
“To love another person is to see the face of God.”-Victor Hugo, Les Miserable